I have recently become a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) in Ontario! I am also an EMDR-trained art therapist working in person and online in Toronto. My psychotherapy website can be found here: www.tcbpsychotherapy.com. I work with clients of all ages and specialize in anxiety, depression, life transitions, grief, and ADHD. I love facilitating art therapy groups, and have a few coming up for teens (Graphic Novel Storytelling) and women journeying through menopause (Crone Power) at the Toronto Art Therapy Space. I am also a member of the CPA (Climate Psychology Alliance) and am committed to supporting feelings of climate distress through evidence-based practices.
As It Happens!
As it happens, I was on CBC’s As It Happens! It was a thrill of a lifetime to chat with Carol Off about The Last Loose Tooth’s Globetrotting Book Tour! Here’s a link to the broadcast. My interview starts at 1:06:20. Let me know if I sound nervous! Click here to learn more about my virtual pandemic tour or to send me a photo.
Read MoreTHE LAST LOOSE TOOTH'S GLOBETROTTING BOOK TOUR
I had big ideas for The Last Loose Tooth’s book tour when it came out this fall.
I’d buy a little red car and cover it in smiling teeth, our compass set to libraries, charming bookstores, and seaside shanties. In my wildest imagining of this tour, I'd install a cute robotic vending machine in the back window of my tiny Fiat 500 to sell my books for me.
But it was not to be, as like you, I've been home. Home has been wonderful in many ways, even through a probable COVID infection, and still now, as both spectator and participant in a year marked by radical, wrenching, and long-overdue upheavals.
I planted more daffodils. I learned Texas Hold 'em. I baked buttermilk biscuits.
And also, possibly like some of you, had moments of feeling really down.
Afternoons lost, insomnia found, hours and hours spent wondering how, when, where, and what to do.
But then the photos started flooding in.
Lou on the cover of The Last Loose Tooth, out in the world, as if on his own road trip. Pandemic be damned, Lou was hopping between far-flung libraries in Tofino, hardwood floors in New Orleans, and small backyard parties in Toronto.
I got some pins, a map, and cleared a section of wall. I decided to track all the Lou photos in all the locales, each country with its own special color.
THE LAST LOOSE TOOTH'S GLOBETROTTING BOOK TOUR was born.
If it's weird to live vicariously through a character in your own book I don't want to know. Because here we are, early days on the tour, and Lou has been all over North America. We have upcoming virtual dates in Sweden, Iqaluit, Los Angeles, and my hometown—Winnipeg. If you live elsewhere (elsewhere is always exciting), please send me a note or a photo of THE LAST LOOSE TOOTH from your beloved city, town, village, hamlet or isle.
Here are the cities to date on Lou’s pandemic “book tour”:
Read MoreActivity Sheets for THE LAST LOOSE TOOTH!
I just finished making 20+ activity sheets for The Last Loose Tooth—including art pages, Tooth Fairy letter templates, lost tooth certificates, puzzles, games, vocabulary activities, and general dental hygiene worksheets!
Download the full-color 25-page PDF here.
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KIRKUS: “Humorous, cheery, imaginative illustrations...”
SCHOOL LIBRARY JOURNAL: “A fun and humorous take on tooth loss that is sure to be a relatable hit...”
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I also discovered while working on my book that my kids LOVED inventing their own special tooth characters—they made acrobat, robot, monster, vampire, and giraffe teeth!
They also created amazing Tooth Fairies! I encouraged the kids to think beyond archetypal depictions of fairies when they were creating their own, and to think about diversity, what made them special, and their own family history.
“WHAT DOES YOUR DREAM TOOTH FAIRY LOOK LIKE? Do they look like you or someone you know? Do they have a special power? Or a book full of magical spells? Maybe they have a cat or a dragon friend? Do they wear a pointy hat or no hat at all? Does your fairy fly, use a wheelchair, or ride a bike?”
Here is the full list of activities included in the PDFs (links below):
Read MoreI went to a writers' retreat in the before times.
I’ve been meaning to share this post for almost a year, hoping to help someone googling “what to bring to a Banff writers retreat,” as I did an hour before my flight.
But as I write this now, most of the world is under some form of lock-down, the writing retreats are on hold, and the parts of my brain responsible for long-term memories appear to be self-isolating.
Still, I’m going to do my best to share a few photos and thoughts, as well as a handful of tips from some of the friends I met at the Banff Summer Writers Retreat. I learned a lot from even the faintest interactions with the other writers in my cohort, but one thing stood out above the rest as important to know before arriving: There is no one right way to do a retreat.
Some people wrote a few hours a day, some wrote for 12, some went to workshops, some went hiking, some worked in town, or checked out performances on campus, and some—like me—spent most of their time in their room.
A wonderful time was had by all.
And while I wouldn’t ask for even one different thing from the Banff Center—except maybe that they hire me and house my family ad infinitum—I would do a few things differently in terms of how I organized my space-time continuum.
Even with just one coffee a day, I spent a good amount of my meal card on fussy, non-dairy espresso drinks, so next time I’d bring my own coffee-making set-up. I’d pack a little espresso machine for my room or a Bialetti to use in a nearby shared kitchen.
I’d also carve out time on my first day to pick up some fresh fruit, vegetables, and breakfast snacks. Here’s a google map with all the Banff-area grocery stores pinned to it. Regrettably, I went to only one of these stores near the end of my stay because I was too scared at the beginning to miss a productive moment. What a mistake! Turns out I would have been better equipped to work in my room longer had I purchased a few provisions.
Read MoreFEVER DREAMS
It appears I have picked the dreaded C-19 in VIRAL BINGO.
I’ve had a lot of time to think about good things and boring things. I’ve undone years of crossword sobriety by logging at least 17 games yesterday. 19 ACROSS: Stay safe. SOLUTION: Stay home.
I also started to think about how, in an alternate world, I would launch THE LAST LOOSE TOOTH.
I would first rent a red vehicle. It would be impossibly small. Definitely Italian. Imagine an elven truck for one, but with a CB radio and unnecessary hydraulics. The tires would be bouncy rubber lifesavers, like the kind you might toss from a painted wooden sailboat. In the flatbed, there would be half a loveseat, a kitchenette with a red blender, and an outrageously large brass espresso machine.
Surprise!
The espresso machine is actually a French horn! It still makes coffee, but oddly in a way that is no longer popular. A café au lait for you, and you, and you!
Read MoreBook Launch for WHERE ARE YOU NOW?
I’ve been working on two linocut designs to give to guests at my upcoming book launch party. So far I’ve made 75 moons, and 75 suns. Let me know if you’re coming! The party and “Irish wake” is happening Friday, November 22nd at Miss Pippa’s. 7-10 PM. Here are the full event details, including information regarding the evening’s Tarot card readings with Kait Fowlie!
Where to buy WHERE ARE YOU NOW?
A few friends (and cool strangers) asked where to buy Where Are You Now?, and I thought i’d share the good news: You can pretty much buy it anywhere.
Where Are You Now? is available online through all the major retailers like Barnes & Noble, Indigo, and (curses!) Amazon. You can also order directly to your favorite local bookstore (especially if you live in Canada or the United States), or head to the Owlkids online bookstore. At Owlkids.com, you can also purchase subscriptions for their brilliant children’s magazines: Chirp, Chickadee, and Owl.
SHE DOES THE CITY does WHERE ARE YOU NOW?
I answered some big questions about why I wrote WHERE ARE YOU NOW? for one of my all-time favorite websites, She Does The City. I’m glad I had the opportunity to think deeply about the book, and share some thoughts about my mother, death, and parenting, in part because I hope my kids will one day find this interview on the internet (instead of, say, all the other stuff I can’t seem to bury…haha).
“There were times, previously, when I felt done with grieving, and other times—like when I was pregnant with my daughter—that I felt a deep sadness, even fear, that having a daughter would remind me too poignantly of her absence.
But when ten years rolled up I was surprised by a new string of words that kept intruding on my thoughts:
‘She gets to come back now.’”
HERE’S THE LINK TO THE FULL ARTICLE.
How to write a children's book? (Please read in the voice of a nervously self-conscious, upspeak-ing Canadian.)
I am frequently asked how to crack the picture book business, and even though it's still honestly a mystery to me, I was delighted to share my to-date intel with Open Book. But don't believe the article’s headline—I do not hold the secret to writing a good picture book! But if you do find the guardian of this information—a person whom I suspect still lives magically in the year 1974—send me a DM.
In my interview, I provide a few ideas about how to approach writing your first picture book, but the best advice I can give you is to just START. I know that sounds sort of 2019 Instagram meme-y, but if you’re serious about writing books, you just have to begin (and from there you’ll find your own best/imperfect process). Making picture books is not quick, it’s not easy, but it’s enormously satisfying.
“I think it’s important to start by evaluating your project. Why do you want to write a children’s book? Does your story have broad appeal (if not, is it an important niche book)? Are you diversity-minded in your writing and approach? Has someone else told your story better? Sometimes the publishing industry wants books that are, in fact, iterative, but I think it's preferable to begin any creative endeavour with something truly your own.”
And a few other points:
“Text and art should complement each other but not duplicate each other. If helpful, add illustration notes to each page so you can clearly separate words from what can be communicated through art.
Every word on the page should need to be there. This simple but life-changing advice was given to me by savvy editor Karen Li (from Owlkids).”
Here’s a link to my full interview. But before you go, can we both just say that Open Book has the best typography on the internet?
Old me
I wrote something on Facebook today about my mother’s death, and I thought I would share it here in case it resonates with you.
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As I invite people to my little book party (my first event in at least ten years), I’m amazed there was a time I hosted monthly parties for hundreds or thousands of people, and that I did so with almost no anxiety.
I call that person “old me”. “Old me” was searching for the conditions to become “new me”, but it wasn’t until my mom died that I was really forced to ground. And here I am, ten years on, planning a party that she would love, to celebrate the book I wrote in her honour. But the strangest thing might be—and this is the premise of the book in some ways—that her death was a gift.
I was largely estranged from my mother during my teens and twenties because of her alcoholism, but she stopped drinking two years before she died, and we were in touch almost daily. The news that she was dying came suddenly (we had a week or so to say goodbye), and this window of time was magical, full of laughter and tears, and deeply restorative. I was able to care for her as she had cared for me when she was a wonderful young mother, and our deep connective harmony synchronized again.
Her death allowed me the clarity and perspective to slow down and finally build a home for myself, and also a meaningful life. If she had died even a year later, I would not have Jeremy, Rooksby, and Hugo.
A large part of parenthood, for me, is recreating the best memories of my childhood (of which there are so many), and remaking (and healing) the rest. I wish my mom were here so I could thank her for all my lives, but I suppose Facebook’ll do today. xoxo
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ORIGINAL ART giveaway for WHERE ARE YOU NOW?
Owlkids is giving away a piece of art from WHERE ARE YOU NOW?
This is the first time I've ever done something like this, so please enter on Twitter (and follow us both)!
Book Giveaway for WHERE ARE YOU NOW?
Owlkids is holding a book giveaway for WHERE ARE YOU NOW?, and it’s very easy to enter!
Here’s the link!
From KIRKUS REVIEWS:
“Do shooting stars disappear? Or do they transform into something else? In Burke’s opening spread, a figure admires a shooting star that streaks across the blue, purple, and red sunset. As the fleeting light disappears, the words read, “Where are you now, star?” And so the conversation begins….With sumptuous illustrations and thought-provoking verses, Burke’s meditation can serve as a quiet bedtime story or a deep conversation starter.”
IT'S A BOOK LAUNCH!
You’re invited to a book launch for WHERE ARE YOU NOW?
Think Irish wake-MEETS-book-launch-MEETS-cozy-autumnal-gathering-MEETS-you?
Come have a drink or two, enjoy some food (I'll order some big platters), and enjoy a cozy and bookish gathering. I'll also have copies of WHERE ARE YOU NOW? handy (and a fountain pen for inky dedications), as well as signed-and-numbered original linocut prints for everyone who attends.
Join me on Friday, November 22nd at Miss Pippa's, 7 pm until 10 pm.
"Told in simple but potent verse and illustrated with washes of brilliant watercolor, WHERE ARE YOU NOW? opens the door to conversations with children about times of change, loss, and death— offering the comforting idea that these moments can spark growth, contemplation, and regeneration." - Owlkids
Here’s a link to my Facebook event page: https://www.facebook.com/events/433455833977278/
I hope you’ll come!
xoxo
TCB
P.S. If you’d like to buy a copy of the book sooner, it’s available through all online retailers or through your favorite local bookstore!
It's ANNOUNCEMENT DAY!
I'm beyond excited to share the news my kooky tooth book landed with the one, the only, Maria Modugno at Random House. A huge THANK YOU is owed to Jackie Kaiser from Westwood Creative Artists. It is no understatement to say I would not be working on this tooth book without her.
I saw this funny cartoon in a kidlit community on Facebook (Rubes Cartoons), and thought it was too perfect not to share. Here also is a link to Publisher’s Weekly’s full page of announcements.
And now, BACK TO WORK!
The KIRKUS REVIEW!
A quick hello, with news!
This first review of WHERE ARE YOU NOW? In Kirkus is nothing short of a titanic relief. This book is unusual in a few ways (a picture book about death in prose), but I feel like it somehow landed in the right reviewer's hands. How lucky is that?
KIRKUS REVIEW
A study of impermanence and transformation.
Do shooting stars disappear? Or do they transform into something else? In Burke’s opening spread, a figure admires a shooting star that streaks across the blue, purple, and red sunset. As the fleeting light disappears, the words read, “Where are you now, star?” And so the conversation begins. From the vastness of the shooting star in the sky to the tininess of the grains of rocks and sea glass it can transform into, the star becomes part of the Earth. As a hand reaches to catch a snowflake, water’s journey—as fog and mist when it swirls “up to the clouds” and rolls “down to the hills”—is explored. But transformation does not happen only in inanimate objects. It happens in plants, like the seed that grows into a tree, which bears apples, and in humans, when, “dreams intertwined / Slow days, quickly past.” The verses and illustrations are vague enough to allow wide-ranging conversations. Without any specificity in human characters’ identity—only silhouettes are displayed—exchanges about death are prompted as the narrator says, “I see you now, still— / Even though you aren’t here.” With sumptuous illustrations and thought-provoking verses, Burke’s meditation can serve as a quiet bedtime story or a deep conversation starter.
Worthy of contemplation. (Picture book. 4–7)
High Risk Breast Cancer Clinic
I'm in the high risk breast cancer clinic at Mount Sinai (Toronto). A month ago I got a call back after my annual MRI because they saw something suspicious on my scan.
This morning I was scheduled for a follow-up mammogram, ultrasound, and biopsy. After my first mammogram this morning, they asked me to do a second more focused one. The ultrasound that followed was long and quiet. I was uncharacteristically frightened and sad. Not really for me, but for the big WHAT IFs I might be leaving my children.
Read MoreI CLEANED MY STUDIO AND FOUND...
…my desk.
Last year was messy. Life. Work. The house. Even my dress sweatpants looked bad.
September was hectic. October was Hallowe’en. November was deadlines.
December was one long, cruel mistress. On Christmas morning, I joined my friends—the balls of crumpled wrapping paper on the floor—and rolled right under the tree.
The next blessed day was December 26th.
Boxing Day is when this parent’s real holiday begins. I loafed around the house for three glorious hours. I flopped into bed. I wrote a song about blankets.
I then surprised myself, my family, and our new pet Roomba: I started to clean. And not in a quiet and delightful Marie Kondo way. I wasn’t sparking joy. I wasn’t making things shiny or tidy in the house. I was out in my studio heaving piles of glued and glittery paper into garbage bags; I was squirrelling away failed but promising projects; I was watching more true crime programming (stop killing each other, people!); and I was hopping around like nobody was watching (pretty sure the neighbour was actually watching).
In other words, I was getting ready for a new, perfectly messy year.
Read MoreBedtime FM featuring Bill Bowerbird and the Unbearable Beak-Ache!
Bill Bowerbird coloring sheet!
Here is a brand new Bill Bowerbird colouring sheet! Download your copy here, and when you're done, send me a photo and I'll post it below!